so for dustpelt be a female and click on him say no to battle training and say yes to be mates it might take a few trys tho for duskfall say no to battle training and go hang out at the shore for cottonwillow be male and win guess the number 3 times but on the fourth say no for nightwhisper you just need to talk to her as a male for a bit and say yess to ask to be mates and for fallenfeather be male and keep talking to her