To be fair, ace and aro people have needed to act more aggressively defensive as their default. So many others assume that they are the same, or that it is an insignificant distinction and an insignificant/invisible minority of the queer community, that you were right to say what you said and reveal that flaw in my statement. I only know the difference because I am on the ace spectrum myself, and that knee-jerk reaction is correct in more cases than not. Keep fighting, we need that perspective.