Agreed with all that. Its why I do love his character so much. Its very interesting, and I look forward, despite any complaints, to continuing down this road to see how he evolves as a character. Yes, I don't want them to water him down to much, but he does have to grow a little at least to end up a feasible romance path at the end. Unless his is a pure tragedy path...then I might have to hit an escape pod. I need fluff at the end of my stories, not further depression. ^^'
Maybe he really does deep down want something real, and was just getting swept up at the bar. Maybe the panic and fighting response really got to him at the hangar. That's why he won't just let you walk away. He is known for having crappy social skills, despite his charm. Who knows. Like I said, maybe he really just is that complicated and self-sabotaging. xD
Its why I had to share my viewpoint. I was hoping for comments like yours and yewyn to help broaden my thoughts and narrow things down. More heads are better then one. =)