This has been amazingly therapeutic. I didn't get to experience a wholesome childhood crush; my teenage years were complicated by fundamentalist religion. It's so healing to get to work through my own feelings about how it would be if I had 2 moms, if I could talk about my gender with friends who accept me. I feel... okay. I get to feel okay. I'm much older now, so I have gotten to surround myself with a loving family, but it's still good to understand it wasn't my fault that everything was broken in my childhood, the world just wasn't made for me. If I had always had this support, not just in my later years, but throughout my life, I would have been okay. Thank you for this.
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I am very old. I grew up in the 70s in rural England. To be gay was to face daily abuse and to be an outcast (I am not exagerating). I was never brave enough for that. I didn't even know what my sexuality was growing up. I just knew that I was not like the people around me. Imagine reaching the moment where Cove tells you his sexuality, and having learned everything about him so far, it all falls into place. I am the same sexuality as Cove. I can tell you, I cried uncontrollably for a couple of minutes. But not through sadness, just raw emotion. After 57 years I discover that there must be other people like me. You will understand how much this "game" means to me. So when you say that this game is theraputic, I know exactly where you are coming from.
Hello Zevvi, I saw your post and felt the need to reply. I was in my 30's once I learned what I am. I am VERY HAPPY for you! I understand some of the feelings your having. I cried tears of joy once I realized I wasn't alone and that there were others like me.
I myself am asexual. Demisexual falls w/in the spectrum of asexuality so you may be interested in learning more about the orientation and connecting with others through this website...
https://www.asexuality.org/
CONGRATULATIONS! I give you a virtual hug.
This game means a lot to me too. The way Cove interacts with the player and has to do a few "test runs" before he can be comfortable doing anything physical is very like my own experience. I'm so glad the creators made this game. It's just the kind of media and representation I wish existed when I was Cove's age and confused.
Hi gingerDee. Really nice to hear from you. Thanks for your message. Thanks so much for the link, and the virtual hug, I appreciate it, and send one back :)
I'm sure that a lot of people feel the way we do about this game. ( as I've said elsewhere, game just does not seem an adequate word to describe it).
I, just a moment ago subscribed on the Patrion site to help fund the GB Patch developers. Our Life means so much to me, I felt it was the very least that I should do.
You said "It's just the kind of media and representation I wish existed when I was Cove's age and confused." I could not put it better myself. Had I understood myself better, then I might have possibly been more understanding of others too. I think that my biggest regrets are not understanding other people in the past. When I was in sixth form, I remember a guy telling me out of the blue that he is gay (this was the 70s, he could have been abused and become an outcast for saying that, but he told me), and I didn't have a clue what to say. I am filled with shame looking back on it, he put his trust in me, yet I had nothing for him, because I didn't understand. I spoke to no one else about it, but I never talked to him about it ever again either. How awful is that.
The one big thing that this game has changed in me is that I feel open about it all. If anyone asks me anything about my feelings then I will now tell them the honest truth without embarassment. Before, I was completely evasive, because I felt that I didn't really know what the truth was. It is a liberating feeling.
So thanks again for your message, I really do appreciate it :)