Hello,
I understand what you mean but trust me, it detects the position of your hand if you are not looking at the gun (I have done thousands of tests to avoid this very thing) Because I am totally like you, I don't need/want to look at my gun to grip it... It slows me down as you said. I recommend you try again on the training session and believe me, you will see :) it works.
Regarding point #2, I also tried but the top (circle) of the Quest controller mostly hits the other one which damages your Quest controller. So I recommend using the stick down, it really feels like putting the hammer down like in the movie.
By the way, did you read the tutorial in the menu? Because you have something called "GrabForce", when you click on your stick (L/R), a pull force will appear, then aim your weapon and press "Grab" it will come back to your hand immediately.
I hope this helps you
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