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But see here's the difference and here's the point at which I agree with them. Riv didn't ask. And they're 100% right, randomly spilling your guts onto an unsuspecting person? You shouldn't do that. But that's usually being done because the other person is hurting really really badly and they haven't been able to fully express that hurt yet. Riv's right, an unsuspecting person who didn't ask SHOULDN'T be the person you spill your guts too, but people are MESSY and they get HURT and when you're bottling something up, things tend to spill over and come out. And responding by just shaming them or ignoring them just makes that hurt that much worse because now the emotions that they were just able to express are being invalidated. So yes, you should 100% say that you really aren't equipped to deal with this and that you think they should maybe talk to someone else. You DO NOT have to help someone/listen to someone when it isn't something you're capable of helping with or it's something that is hurting you. But you do still have to at the very least acknowledge and respect the fact that they are hurting. 

Ah, alright. That's the thing I was, kinda missing. But even if they didn't ask, all this wasn't even really-needed. You don't have to go on an entire rant about someone being hurt, someone who needed help, thought they could trust you, even if they didn't mean for it to come out.

exactly

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honestly, sometimes I question why I even was their friend.