I understand the pet peeve, but H on defeat is a fetish thing, not a gameplay things. Its hot to be defeated and then fucked and humiliated. It's sexy, its not a gameplay thing, and only games can really get that point across. thats why its so common. I like the idea of the enemies domming the protagonist. besides, you can always make it so defeating an enemy, or the stage they're in unlocks both so you dont HAVE to lose. this way, everyone wins.