That's not what ItAllStartsWithYou is saying. He said to listen to the useful criticism and not focus on the overly negative. As for it being a judged contest that is irrelevant. Judging can be fair and critical without being overly harsh. Just look at your comments in your thread on rpg maker, you gave SmashArtist suggestions on improving his game.
There are shows which have harsh judges and shows which don't. Both can survive.