The same hint system as always is in the game, but it's always being updated with feedback. A new feature is that you are now informed when an event is ready during the day transition screen and in the new stats menu. Going to their door will either start the event or tell you what you need to do to start the event. Any confusion at all should be treated as a bug so I can make it clearer.
I have no motivation to sexualize men as a straight man, so don't count on it. Some of that content has been added though, specifically with a femboy elf on the beach.