The problem is that I'm not really interested in power fantasy mode. My kobolds have no morale because like you said that costs treasure and women and those are things I need/don't wanna give. I already spent the extra morale I had on traps to capture the catgirl thieves.
The quest with Mina only happens for me later after I have to let Enid go. I had to use the dress to get her happy because I captured her. I think I'll restart and not capture her now since I can meet her later. Thanks