Again, by all logic standards he would have gone to Dylan BEFORE finding out it was Eden who fucked up his life, do you honestly believe they'd let someone walk away and casually live with a friend after they erase his life? All going to Dylan would have accomplished is turning Dylan into a target as well.
The getting shot part is irrelevant, it's depressing and showcases how little of a choice Adrian has. He has no other option than to roll with the punches especially considering the guy who shot him is going to be training him on a near-daily basis. It was unfortunate but not life-threatening or devastating, I've been shot before in places much worse than a mere near miss on my ear, I WISH the shots were a near miss. Let's also put ourselves in Adrian's shoes, no other options, he has to stay in the base probably until Eden is fucked, he'll see the raccoon walking around and training him frequently, and he legit is in no position to get pissy with him. While it's not excusable it's understandable that Adrian would forgive and forget quickly.
There were 3 henchmen that went into the bar that night, one threatened Adrian the other 2 went with Oswald, there is absolutely no way he killed those two agents. He says "I took care of it" but that doesn't mean killing them, killing agents on TOP of their base is remarkably idiotic to the point where it seems the author has to clarify it so people like you don't get the wrong idea. It's heavily implied if you have a set mindset into wanting to think that, biased views.
It's also mentioned this project was a partnership with 3 other VNs, if that's the case then I'm fairly certain they're busy with their own VNs to actually work on this project, that'd explain the delays. Hell even if they didn't have other VNs to work on I doubt all of them can afford to work on this VN full-time, life is demanding enough without having people shit all over you while you're trying to make a free project. Constructive criticism works wonders, blatant complaining does the opposite.