In your example decorators are real designers because they are professionals working in the construction, they studied, researched, built a career out of that. A house owner (aka the youtuber in my first example) literally just paid for it, again, they are sponsors of the game, and thus deserve that recognition, but they are NOT developers, as they did not work in the game (unless otherwise), either programming, designing or professionally testing it...
As for the rest, It seems you hold resentment towards some developer(s) that may have not taken your feedback/request kindly, for that I have nothing to say. As I can't figure out your abstraction level, when you say things like "be pissed when someone DOESN'T like their games".