Yeah, the unity situation is a mess. I would like to switch to some other engine just out of principle, but the king of projects I tend to work on take a looong time to make and I'm in a middle of making a game. I'm afraid to even image how huge of a pain it would be to recreate( or hopefully transfer) everything I made in unity to another engine. I think I kinda have to finish this before trying to learn a different engine or else it's going to be months of my free time just doing that. When I work on a game for two years and there is still a fair bit left to finish it it's not exactly easy to switch.
The monetization thing won't be an issue for someone like me who makes no money on these projects anyway, but who knows what kind of nonsense they will announce next after they quite likely go back on this monetization model.