Completely understand and also agree with you! And yeah I definitely wouldn't have agreed with OG and their "chill out" comment, that they probably wrote without really knowing about the situation which is also bad. Bc ppl rightfully are hurt, and pissed about this situation and should be able to critize even if a bit more direct and harshly. And I do to a certain degree understand your comfort when someone else voices criticism when you feel like you're not heard. But yeah again it just personally icks me when I see ppl acting self-important even tho they didn't even support the game. And I personally wouldn't say that the comment was criticism nor just slightly mean. Other comments are also able to voice their criticism and some ppl are even pretty directly and don't hide their anger so I would say there is definitely a way for you as a backer to do it and voice this frustration, anger, distrust and disappointment without again just plainly insults and personal attacks. but yeah that's just my two cents.
But yeah idk about this whole situation either, bc the whole thing with discord is just not it. This all should have went down here on this site. And yeah I also would have liked to be updated here, that apparently someone took over the game and now it's apparently coming out on 2024. but yeah this whole situation is validly so frustrating and in your case angering.