So far I've been unable to replicate the issue, I'll be launching a Discord in a bit, if you could send me your flags folder on there that would be much appreciated. The Flags folder is located at /Data/flags/.
During the sessions themselves your domme will ask about your preferences, I want to avoid a situation where it feels like you're the one changing her directly using toggles. This is to increase immersion overall, preferences should be a conversation, not a button. So you're free to refuse her during questions like those as well.
As for planned kinks, I'll post about the newly added ones in the 0.3 update.