so uh funny thing just found out that uh I'm NOT soft locked matter of fact I'm dumb and completely forgot about the trail thing you can use to find out where the quest leads to and i only remembered this when i finally got to the point where i was
this was a thing i had used before i just thought "farm" was Blacks Farm and didn't even think of using said tool but no the farm is near the town next to the caves on the right side where you get a loaf of bread from so that was fun to realize