As Fred once said (paraphrasing) "People do not want freedom, because freedom is responsible, and, people fear to be afraid..." This words is deep to my own hear and represents some of the kinds of Nichean psychic philosophy that is Near and Deer to my own words... If I may paraphrase his own paraphrasing once can also say "You must burn a forest down so that new plants can grow", and sometimes the best way to burn a forest is with hard truths. I am sorry for making you to into this disruabnce but also it may be a good Learning Experience for you, and all of us, to take away from the darkest moments to grow stronger, bronze in flame...
Have a blessed day.
- Luke 22:48