Not exactly the type of games you mention in this post, but as you say, we are all different worlds. :) My relaxing game these past few months is the online MMORPG, Archeage.
While everyone else hates it, I always find myself playing the "Farmville" portion of the game, relaxed and at ease.... at my own pace... taking care of my farms and animals, making gold, and enhancing the house... trading all around the continents, avoiding pvp conflicts as much as possible.
For me, it works, and helps me endure just another year of adult life related problems.