As long as he puts his d in men, he's out of my dating pool hence a gay for me. I wrote it like that fully aware of what I'm doing.
It spoiled the experience for me too. I'd read a yaoi novel if I needed gays in my soup.
I think it's none of those two. When Duliae talks about this special friend of his, you get a codex entry about a woman named Relikol.