It say something when you start. there is a patch for the relationships. where do i find that?

There are several patches made by players and uploaded.

There is one especially popular on our "Saving Paula" page on F95, that I tried to put here. But it seems Itch doesn't like the site, so it blocked the link I put here.

You can go there and just search for "Saving Paula" - it's on the opening page.