Might just be impatient, but I'm getting tumbleweed w/this question on bluesky, so I thought I'd try here.
If there is already a thread about this, I would love to be linked to it & apologies for the redundant thread!

btw, by "beginner" I mean "has never made an asset pack before"  -- i would like to say I'm at least a little experienced in the art styles I'm thinking about using lol 
(art styles i'm considering:  pixel art, pre-rendered 2D (like Donkey Kong Country), regular 2D art, lowpoly 3D) 

Anyway, open to all manner of advice
but here are various questions, in case those are more helpful that amorphous advice requests:

-when to consider an asset pack done?
-etiquette in regard to adding content to a pre-existing asset pack at a later date?  (does itch.io allow that?) 
-smallest reasonable size for an asset pack? 
(like is it ok to put out a pack that is basically just the same cat with a few different colors/textures applied)
-proper format across different styles mentioned above? 
-what should be included with 3D assets?  (should it be a blender file, an .obj, something else, how many animations are expected, etc.  i admittedly struggle w/the technical side of 3D & need to study more lol)
-pricing?

I'll try to chime in here although I have never sold assets on here, I have used some, hopefully what I can add to this conversation helps to some degree.

-when to consider an asset pack done?

This is something you need to figure out based on your own goals. It might be complete with just one sprite of a lantern. Might be a hard sell especially if you are charging for it, but if the only thing you wanted to sell is one sprite, one sprite is all it would be. Similarly, if it's just one character sprite, plus a spritesheet of actions the character can do (e.g. jumping running attacking etc) maybe thats all it is. Don't think just because you saw a 200+ piece medieval fantasy asset pack for sale, that you have to do that. Whatever your goal is, once you hit it, it's done.

-smallest reasonable size for an asset pack? 
(like is it ok to put out a pack that is basically just the same cat with a few different colors/textures applied)

Absolutely, the last asset pack I downloaded was a few tank models, in a few different colors each. If it's something specific, once you hit that goal it is ready to go.

-proper format across different styles mentioned above? 

Assuming you mean file format, the last asset pack I downloaded was all .png files (aside from the text file about licensing etc). You don't want to do any software specific file types because for example if you use photoshop, the guy who buys your asset pack may not have photoshop, now you are adding extra hoops for them to jump through to be able to use it. Vector files are great for any kind of asset that is likely to be edited after someone buys it, but I don't really know how common that is. Common file types like png are probably the easiest to be able to work with for most people.

-pricing?

Something reasonable. Free will always be the easiest way to get people to use it, if that is your goal. As much as I hate recommending ever working for free, if it's your first time doing something like this, consider making it free. Once you build a name and reputation charging makes more sense, by all means you can start out by charging but if you can't do free, it should probably be as cheap as makes sense in your head.