Yeah, you're right. I agree with you on most things. But about the things you suggested (which are absolutely valid and cool): the problem with IRC for me is that it has no message history (obviously) and it drains your battery in the background (obviously), so if you are using it on the phone like me, you either have a low battery life or you gotta start conversations yourself and this is also my personal problem as I always feel like I'm bothering people if I reach out first in any context, but yeah. IRC is ultracool overall as it has amazing people from every generation (there are people 60 and 70 years old alongside with people who are 14 (I'm hanging out in slashnet))
Forum websites that aren't technical are hard for me to find, as well as web rings, but I'm only starting to explore neocities and will probably find some cool ones soon (if you have any recommendations, feel free to share them, though)
And thank you for your response!