I should probably make this clearer in-game in some way, but how it's intended to work is that melee enemies won't attack if
- they can't bind you, i.e. you're already so covered in bondage that they can't fit anything more on you
- they've run out of items; each melee enemy only has a few items in its inventory and when they're all used up it'll go passive
- you have maid stuff on: some of them recognise you as a valued servant, but in execution it looks like you say, like the AI is bugging out
thanks for playing and for the report! perhaps the solution to that is like a smiley face symbol or something like that to signal passiveness, I'll give it some mulling over