i further realized the issue issnt anyones code, its just my potato pc that cant handle 3 people at once
on her own ARK is fine, anything else crashes
Oh, okay, that does sound about right. The limit was around four even with my decent pc setup, so you are not that far off anyway. Good news is the next update has the new file system for mods that makes the game take up a little less memory than Discord normally does, even with a ton installed. So you should be able to handle things when that update becomes public.