Sorry if any of my points are offending you, especially regarding kinks. It seemed like a very specific demand for a sex game full of kinks, and your comment felt like requesting yours. My apologies for assuming.
Also, I don't know you at all, I had no idea you were intersex and so does everyone else. I only ever heard intersex people being called hermaphrodite as an insult or a creepy fetish. You have the right to reappropriate an insult of your community, but if you don't give any context then people are gonna assume that you're just being disrespectful ! (Don't worry, you're not the first queer person to make that mistake).
As for futanaris, I didn't know that much about them, just read some blogs about people making connection with a fetish of trans women. But if it's as wild as you describe, then yeah it would feel weird in this game.
However, I overall do agree with you that an intersex option could be a great addition to the game ! It is a realistic request, you're right. Your initial comment just felt like you were requesting an exaggerated hermaphrodite character similar to the myth where the word comes from, and not an intersex character. Sorry for my side of the confusion on this !