You can try launching the backend manually through the KoboldCPP GUI. If you start the game while the actual process (the command prompt) is running, it will detect it and hook into it, but this does essentially the same thing the game does by automatically spawning the process.
well with a lot of head akes and your help i got it workin now tyvm i had to force launch it at game menu thin load w8 a bit thin it force me to the ai site had to say hi to it then the kobold hook the game and run with the game oh i all so had to revert the cpp back it is old code it dint like the one you gave me and agen ty so much for the help and run down...now im goin to yell in my pillow and sleep lol