A headgirl needs to be rich or noble I think. You probably don't have one of those yet.
The AricExpansion folder in the main download needs to go under mods directly. The one in the patch should only overwrite those few files, but should not delete the rest. There's a step in the installation instructions that says to rename any existing "AricsExpansion" folder before copy/pasting the one in the main download there so it doesn't get overwritten. You don't want to mix those or overwrite, but yeah, losing all the rest of the files would be worse. Just let me know if you run into any more problems. Your main game files looked A-ok, so you should be all set now.