well if i remmeber correctly
it's was after she discover her past and when she come back with her different skin and so
and also but not really important the birthday party of ashley as she was here
if you saw the Android with black hair(Human Kit) and you still have that message popping up then you do have a bug, since Black Hair Android scene goes first than all the scenes you have just mentioned.
You can buy the human kit after she gets rejected from a Restaurant because she is an Android(Sex Doll), after that you can give her the Human Kit and then the scene of them going back to the restaurant begins.