oh...i am just an asshole then...i feel bad now. T~T
I wouldn’t say that, especially if you have the empathy to feel that way about it. A lot of us got fed inane harshness and “because I said” type stuff as kids, so that’s what we reflect.
Then some of us got fed so much of that and other, worse things that we got sick of it and rejected it all, and I’m so used to being a maternal figure to people with loads and loads of trauma that a gentle touch and respectful approach is just second nature by now.