The scenario reminds me of a story about the wisdom of King Solomon. Two mothers in the realm had babies the same day, but one baby died. Both were now claiming the surviving baby was hers. Solomon had to choose which one was the real mother. He said the baby should be cut in half. The First woman agreed. The Second said "Please don't kill it. Let her have the baby." Solomon determined the First woman, out of jealousy or grief, didn't mind seeing the other mother's baby die too, but the child's real mother would sooner let her baby be raised by a questionable person than have worse harm come to it. So Solomon gave the baby to the Second mother.
Mothers make personal sacrifices for their children almost daily, some small just in the moment, some with lifelong irreversible outcomes. But that's what a LOVING parent does, they will choose the best possible/least bad outcome for their offspring despite their own aspirations and/or desires. For individuals who haven't had children, it's sometimes hard to understand.