Ooo, glad you like Aiden, and yes, Donovan is interesting once you get past the rough exterior. Can't speak to the habits of the MC... I suppose she's not about to be told what she can or can't do.
Yes, the rise of "hooliganism" and a decline in Chaperones meant that young ladies took it upon themselves to defend against such risks. Hatpins were a popular weapon of choice.
