You cannot, I'm afraid. She hates you, with good reason.
Her hatred is understandable, but if I don't hurt her, she can't be a spouse. Will she be possible in the future to recruit without breaking she?
She isn't like Maelys...Dear Naho is stuck in her ways.... Sending her to Breaker makes sense in terms of her character
Naho is proud and arrogant. If you break her, you lose the very essence of hers character. Smashing someone is no great performance, any brute can do it. Manipulate her with arguments to get her on your side. To this I say, fit for a king.
