OMG, midichats... you're the first person to write me such a long comment, it almost feels like I'm reading a letter! Thank you so much for taking the time to write to me, I'm really happy and flattered >///<
You give me too much credits though. I'm not that amazing, I'm just like you, someone who is trying to stay positive and pay the bills :'D I have my flaws but I'm sure all of us have our own difficulties. But yes, I agree that all of us deserve to be happy and not be someone's 'whatever'. We take marriage seriously because our intention is to have a partner who will accompany us until old age/death, but I guess it's just me who is ready to commit... or maybe our wedding vows hold different weights. This is an important lesson to me, and let this be a warning to all of us, sister! Choose wisely! Q^Q
Still, to have someone grovel at my feet would be too much, don't you think? 😂
Thank you for taking the time reading my old updates to get to know my situation better though >///< You're so considerate and thorough!
And as much as it saddens me, you're right. How people respond to conflict says a lot about them... I guess it's partly my fault, because I trust him too much. When we were dating, we didn't go out much because I was an introvert. We also didn't fight much--except when I got into conflict with mother-in-law involving my pre-wedding dress. I should've seen the signs. Back then, he did nothing when his mother forced me to use his sister's dress instead of the one I've chosen. I thought he would be better after we got married, I thought maybe he'll at least warn his mother when she becomes too much of a perfectionist, but I was wrong :')
Somehow, you remind me of scriptomancer. She also radiates confidence and a no-nonsense person x'D Until now, I still remember her words, 'if you want to live that way, you shouldn't have married me because it's not happening!' . Your words also struck me deep, especially this one; even if he gets away from the shop...he still did not see you as someone worth fighting for or trying to compromise for. He never gave you any effort. Your marriage is not the priority to him.
Thank you... I always felt like I'm married to a child instead of a man. I mean, he didn't seem to understand that we're supposed to try and make our own family, make our own story. Not to integrate with his parents. I'm his partner, why can't he see that? *sigh* I'm still frustrated whenever I think about it.
And I'm sorry to hear about your mother :'(
But you know what? I think if your mother have a chance to start over, she'll do the same, because even though your dad is a... excuse me, a 'dog'. She'll do it all over again to have you and your siblings! Believe me when I say a mother's love is the greatest thing on earth :') sure, there are a few mothers who gave up/didn't have the capability to commit raising a child. But once they put their mind on it, they'll love you more than they love themselves. My mom was harsh and sometimes could be like a godzilla, but as I grow older and know of her difficulties, I love her more than anything else now. Although, as Asians we still have a hard time expressing our love x'D
Thanks again for the love and support! I'm taking note of your twitter and IG! Look out because you got yourself a new stalker 😂 Oh, that video was also hilarious! Even if it's a little crude, I get what you're trying to say rofl.
Last but not least, I hope you're doing great no matter where you are! I hope all of us will find happiness in life <3
Lots of love & hugs,
SweetChiel