I don't mind cos I could discuss yandere stuff forever xD
It's interesting how everyone has their favourite kinds of yanderes! I have some friends who feel that hurting the loved one is a massive no-no and they will immediately begin to hate the yandere if they physically harm their love. But at the opposite end of things, I also have friends who would be bored with the yandere if they didn't hurt their love at least a little bit x3
Really, I'm just happy to come across yandere characters in general, no matter what kind they are, haha. They just make things more fun :D I still don't think I've found my ultimate favourite character yet, but I'm sure they're out there somewhere!
But anyways, you're correct cos I am indeed female and tend to lean towards preferring male yandere characters :3 Actually, the main reason I got into game dev was cos I wished there were more English-speaking male yandere characters, haha. I'd seen female ones in anime, manga, and games, but nowhere near as many males, so I kinda made it my mission to add more male yanderes to the world of visual novels!
After finishing my first game though, I decided that I'd rather make my yandere characters male and female :3 Because I generally don't write my characters with gender in mind, so I always figure they can be either! That means that all of my games aside from my very first one feature both a male and a female version of the yandere/s within the game :D Or at least 1 feminine and 1 masculine voice for the character!
And since I was doing that with my own characters, I figured I might as well continue making both when it came to this fan project too :3
I haven't really seen that much in the way of happily married to a yandere type content. I've seen endings like it in a few VNs, but they're usually pretty brief and kinda categorised as bad ends, haha. That's probably cos I generally only consume content featuring male yanderes though! I've probably missed a lot of great stuff in the last few years cos starting game dev pretty much stole all of the time I used to spend actually playing games and watching stuff >.<
Makes sense that police and the like would see them as a kinky couple though xD
I didn't mind Yuno at all :3 She was probably my first introduction to what a yandere was, even if I probably didn't know the term at the time! She's not really my personal cup of tea, but I can totally see why so many love her. Actually, Kish from Tokyo Mew Mew was probably the first yandere I ever saw in anything, but I was a kid so I would've had no idea whatsoever what a yandere was xD
I think a character called Tei from the game Nameless is probably the closest I've gotten so far to a yandere that I adore more than most, but I still have some issues with his character, hence why I say I still don't think I've encountered my perfect yandere x3
That made me chuckle about the Sith Lords stuff :D Yeah, I would be bored with a yandere if they hid their yandereness forever and were just a master manipulator behind the scenes without ever showing it or rubbing it in their love's face x3 I prefer the manipulation to be hidden in the sense that you don't suspect anything until it's too late. So you feel safe, and that's when they let their crazy out with a smile, say 'gotcha!' and then you go from feeling fine to being in absolute despair xD
Whether it's a male or female yandere, I always find them more fun if they're intelligent enough to be able to manipulate as opposed to trying to solve everything with violence. The more childish kind who just throw tantrums and go on a rampage can be entertaining too though in their own way!
Going by how you described your best yandere where you mentioned hiding the crazy until the crazy is about to get known, that's probably pretty close to my favourite kind really! I suppose it depends what sort of mood I'm in though x3 Sometimes I feel in the mood for one who is cuter and more caring with their crazy, and sometimes I prefer one who is more focused on sadistic traits without much of the cute side. As long as the love is there, of course. Because if there isn't any love there, then they can't even really be a yandere anymore x3
I mean, I do love crazy, loveless villains too, but that's for another discussion, haha. The whole 'anything for love' attitude that yanderes have is what makes them so special :3 It's a rare kind of personality that would be willing to do whatever it takes to ensure they get to be with the one they love. In fiction, I absolutely adore it! In reality, not so much, haha. I'd feel too smothered by a real yandere I think because I'm super close to my family and also need time to myself >.<
I've seen countless arguments online about what makes a character yandere or not. I've seen some people argue that if the yandere hurts their love interest, they're not a real yandere because if it was true love, they would never hurt them. Buuuut, I dunno. I think it's a big grey area x3 Even in reality, people do some crazy stuff in the name of love! And even if it might not look like love, it's not really for us to judge. I mean, we have the right to sit there and say, wtf, that's not love! That person is just a twisted monster!! But we're not in the head of that person or character, so we can shout all we like about what is and isn't love, but we can't physically inhabit that person or character and change their feelings x3 For all we know, their love might be genuine to them. Oooor, it might not be, but we'll never know cos we're not them, haha.
I feel like if a character is motivated by true love (or at least what they think is love), then whether they hurt their love interest, themselves, or others doesn't matter. If they're motivated by true love and willing to do crazy and unhealthy things in pursuit of it, then they're yandere. Heck, even if a character is completely deluded and what they're doing doesn't seem like love at all from the outside, I'd still say that if the character is convinced they're doing what they're doing out of love, then they're yandere, regardless of what outsiders looking in make of their actions.
I totally feel you on there needing to be a reason for stuff as well! I guess thinking about it, being used as a toy would probably fall under one of my liked traits of just general sadistic characters rather than yanderes. Because if a yandere is just using you as a toy and there isn't actually any love there, then they can't even really be a yandere x3
Actually, there needing to be a reason behind stuff is another thing that made me want to try and start writing yandere characters myself. I'd come across far too many stories online where they were tagged as having a yandere, but the yandere turned out to just be a plain old psycho, as though the writers had forgotten to include the element of love >.< And like I said, don't get me wrong, cos I do love me some pure psycho characters too, haha, but it did start to get on my nerves that these 'yanderes' I was encountering appeared to have no motives behind their crazy actions. They were just crazy.
As you say, they're not a yandere if they're just using you and there's no love there >.< As fun as that can be in a horror way like you said, haha.
When it comes to any kind of crazy character, yandere or not, I really prefer that they have something at some point in the story that explains how come they ended up the way they did and why they act the way they do.
It's interesting as well that you say you like the horror side of yanderes and that the creepy alone is enough. I'm the same, haha. I'm asexual, so for me, there isn't really a sexy side to yanderes anyhow xD I will still find certain characters to be 'hot' but in a non-sexual way, if that makes any sense at all x3
It's weird really that I tend to lean towards preferring male yandere characters because I don't consider myself to be straight when it comes to romance! I do have a preference for masculine over feminine voices though cos they just sound nicer to me. I'd say that the best way I could describe myself is being panromantic but asexual, which I realise is a confusing combo >.< I know that I have the capacity to be attracted to non-male characters, but they have to possess certain traits. I think maybe a lot of female yandere characters are TOO cute for my tastes? Like they make me feel a bit ill with their cuteness xD I feel similarly repulsed by overly cute male yandere characters too though, haha. Age might also have something to do with it, as a lot of the femme yanderes I come across are pretty young, often like high-school age, and that age does nothing for me regardless of gender really cos it's just too young appearance-wise. For example, Kanato from Diabolik Lovers is pretty cute to look at, but he does absolutely nothing for my yandere goodness tingles cos he looks and sounds too young, haha.
I think perhaps part of the problem as well is that I like the idea of a constant kind of power struggle going on in the relationship dynamic, and I find it easier to believe that a male yandere would be capable of finding a way to dominate, whereas I tend to look at female yandere characters more like they're competition xD As in, I reckon I could take her in a fight an protect the person she's obsesing over x3 Or, if I were yandere myself for the same love interest as her, I reckon I could get crazier than her! So that weird sort of fantasy competitiveness gets in the way and stops me from feeling even remotely scared of female yanderes, and if I don't feel even the tiniest bit scared or creeped out by them, then they're just not that much fun to me >.< I want a yandere to be able to genuinely creep me out x3
I have the same problem with female villains in stuff xD They have to be truly terrifying for me to actually be afraid of them, and even then, I still feel like attempting to beat them into the ground rather than enter a relationship with them x3 It's odd because, in reality, I'm not a competitive person at all. But when it comes to fiction, I get weirdly feisty!
So yeah, I probably wouldn't get much enjoyment out of yandere wife stuff cos I'd probably just want to kill them xD To be fair, I probably wouldn't get that much of a kick out of yandere husband stuff either because I wouldn't particularly want to be married to one x3 I guess it really depends on how the protagonist of the story reacts to the yandere though. Presumably, to get to the point of marriage, the protagonist must've had to play along or be really clever and manipulative to get to the point where they actually have a life with the yandere. And while I'd probably find it kinda fun to write that sort of stuff, I most likely wouldn't enjoy consuming it as much because it feels like there maybe wouldn't be enough conflict or danger for my personal tastes. I could be totally mistaken there though! It's just, from a personal role-playing point of view, the type of protagonist I prefer to inhabit is one who never gives up the struggle. So it would frustrate me to step into the shoes of a protagonist who willingly submits to the yandere or lets them have their way in an attempt to make the relationship work x3
Aaaaanyways, that's awesome that you're from Poland :3 My family is British and Polish :D Sadly, because the Polish came from my grandad and he moved to England after the war, we are split between the UK and Poland, so we don't get to see all our relatives very often. We did go to Poland for a family wedding years ago though, and then my cousin here got married this year and some of our Polish relatives flew over to the UK, so we keep in touch at least :3 I'd like to learn Polish, but my relatives told me it's one of the hardest languages to learn x3 I'm still trying to learn German at the moment, so probably not a good idea to start Polish as well or I'll confuse myself, haha. Some of our Polish relatives moved to Germany and learned German, so at least we might have some sort of middle ground language-wise if I can learn enough German x3 cos most of them speak more German than they do English.
And as for decent-sized cookies, I was just thinking of one at least the size of my palm (though my hands are quite small xD) rather than those tiny ones that are only like 3cm across x3 I know different parts of the world have totally different ideas of what a big or small portion is though cos my brother has showed me some food comparison videos of takeaways, haha. Some of the UK vs US ones have me really shocked at how massive the portions sometimes are in the US o.O