it just seemed silly to me that someone preaching "everything is valid, it's all just personal beliefs, let's all smile and agree to disagree" would actually attempt tone policing someone else.
and then, if i sounded hostile, it's probably because i was, indeed, annoyed. the position you're defending has been defended more times than there are stars in the universe (a whole fucking lot!), and in my little experience, it's more often than not proclaimed by people who have no understanding of social dynamics of power, no lived experience of discrimination, or both. i'm sorry if you caught some hostility up there.. it just gets boring to be told by randos to respect the "opinions" of a group that wants you dead.