finally after 3 tries i didnt die by rose i followed everything in the comments but i buttered up edward (i think that was his name)
witness the nighttime murders
comfort the man
flower shop, then lunch
go for a night run and stay before running
go see the swans on the date and see the kidnappers
and either buy a pillow or rest doesnt matter which is first but do go check on scott and keep pushing the topic
watch the moive with asriel
go to work and dont leave until you tell chara and asriel about lawrence then go with them
then go visit the apartment keep looking around till you get the "what if its all connected"
make sure to butter up edward complement the watch say father is proud and lie about scott anticipating the visits
after that i was able to not die by rose :D