Usually dysphoria-inducing words are in reference to oneself and not others. So if I heard someone use the word "clit" in reference to a woman I wouldn't care (but if it were in reference to a trans man I would care, unless it was clear that he was okay with other people calling it that). So as long as all characters are cis, I don't think it matters.
But I'm really happy that you care enough to implement the option to change those words! I've played other (erotic) games where "genitals don't equal gender" but they still use the same words and even call it a "female/feminine climax" or some shit sometimes. So as a trans man who's always had to either regret making a trans male character because of the words that are used or roleplay as a cis man and feel either dysphoric or completely disconnected when balls and ejaculation are mentioned I can't tell you how much this is appreciated!
And I'm not on the Discord, I am in two Discord groups for erotic audio creators but only use them to listen to audios they can't put on Patreon, so I never interact otherwise. But if there is other relevant (mostly trans-related, I guess) discussion for this game then I would probably join in.