Stop letting your ahamkara control you.
Here's some CBT questions that I've found very helpful:
- What alternative ways are there of viewing this situation?
- Are there any thinking errors in the initial thoughts? If so what might be an alternative balanced thought?
- What does the evidence suggest? What evidence shows the automatic thought is true or not? What does the evidence say about the alternative thoughts?
- If xxx was in the situation and had this thought, what would I tell him? What would they tell me?
- What experiences have I had that show this thought isn't true all the time?
- Five years from now, if I look back at this situation, how will I view it?
- What's the effect of my believing the automatic thought? What could be the effect of changing my thinking?