No worries.
1). There are variables for rulership outcomes, but they're raised through things like doing sidequests or your choices in the story. Their effects are also mainly on story factors (as an example, if you're given the option to deploy your army to fight corruption, how well it does may be related to your Army Quality value). They aren't character attributes ala Persona.
2. No, the romance of the game is currently focused on the three main characters in a developing menage-a-trois type FFM three way-romance, one which may potentially include a few more girls later on. In the future, I do plan to have some side romances between other pairs of characters (though no one who Alexander has any chemistry with himself).