You actually can choose pronouns, but pronouns =/= gender in this game. There's also a chance to specify whether your character is trans or cis, but you can't explicitly choose a gender outside the vague umbrella of "woman."
It hurts to hear that this may not be inclusive or accommodating for everyone, but at present I am most interested in pursuing a sense of authenticity, and a large focus of my work involves relationships with other women based on my personal experience.