Thank you so much Lyvius! I actually did read that, and did do everything there before I came here but it's still super kind of you to take the time to help me and I appreciate it. Ultimately, on Day 91 suddenly (with all the things you mentioned still there), she, and actually everyone else, started skyrocketing 1-2 points a day. Idk if it was a time-related lock, or I hit some magic influence number, but I thought I'd follow this up both again, to thank you, & secondly if someone else were to come looking for the information this might be useful.
Anywho, have a great day, great life, you see as this goes :)