As a side note (and a bit of extra information for you!), the choice/highlighting input scheme you are describing could be accomplished using a couple of different BCI input techniques.
One, as you have mentioned, would be from the user causing a specific spike in brain activity (e.g. imagining a specific movement). Alternatively, the P300 tool we will be providing is well-suited for this type of game-input. When you highlight each of the options, if you do it in a random order multiple times you will actually elicit a well-defined brain response (the P300 response) which we can identify. Each time the object the child is focused on is highlighted the P300 brain response would occur and we could then select this option for the child. We are working on some videos which (hopefully) explain the P300 better! They will be added to the main page of the jam.
Either way, throughout the jam we will be available to help you with the BCI input design aspects!