Kat, it would appear that you are having to deal with the worst type of censor, one who feels that if something offends them then it must be changed and shouldn't be allowed for anyone. I find it amusing that simple language like "fag" or "retard" offends them while engaging a AVN site. Seeing people hump like bunnies is not a problem, but a word or two is the end of the world.
BTW, retard, moron, and idiot are medical terms. As for the term fag, it is a contraction of the word faggot. The definition of faggot is a bundle of sticks. The word was then contracted to fag and used as a reference to cigarettes. Later it became a derogatory term for a homosexual. The fact that someone wants to apply one interpretation to a word while ignoring or discounting the other meanings speaks more to the people doing the interpretation than the word itself. Maybe a different word like hypersensitive would apply.