how to get the 'dragon shape' quest (when i talk to jaylin after i built the farm only "don't dare to lay a finger on it" dialouge appear)

Did you have the events with Ryen, Mira and the Windspirit yet to unlock Ryen's dragonic powers? If not, you may have to talk with the Windspirit in the top left corner of Aldlyn.

i think i forgot to talk with the wind spirit