Hello i dont know if this is the corrext place or way to ask these 2 questions but i didnt know where else should i ask so sorry if this isnt the place for this. So my 2 questions is where i can see my slaves/servants lust because i have a one with the 'masochist' trait and i cant use fully without knowing that her lust increased from an abuse action. The second is when i wanted to do a cutom start and i was at the point where i have to customize my servant there were only 12 race but there should be more for example there is no dyra race. So if you could help me with these i would appreciate.

Cast "mind reading" and you'll see both lust and lewdness. Or just inspect your save as suggested here.

As for your second question, I suppose you may open "files\globals.gd", find "var starting_pc_races" and add ", Dryad" to the list. I haven't tested it though and I don't know if it can cause some bugs.
After you edit a script, you must restart the game.