not the main discord, other people's discords. Team finder also requires Discord. See the problem.
Viewing post in Discord Server!!
Well, I'm not really sure how to help you there. People will communicate how they choose, and DMs will be unmoderated regardless of platform.
If you're looking to reach out to people on a platform other than Discord, some people like communicating on Twitter, BlueSky, even email, etc -- so providing your account on one of these platforms when trying to team up with someone on a community post may help you out.