Strive lets you play as person who rapes their slaves in jail without consent. Subdue them, Tie them up.
The requirements for consensual sex can be complicated but one change made since you last played was the need for 80 obedience to avoid starting a sex scene with the resist symbol. Sex traits like masochist do not change rape, they do other things. Read the descriptions. I seem to remember that Submissive is more relevant.
As you get further through the game you can remove rebellious a lot fast with spells and potions.