since when did I demand anything? Don't assume that just because I'd have a preference for a character to match my own preference that I'm making a demand.
look, i understand that you didn't mean it like that, but it is the implications that i disagreed on your choice of words. of course you can have a preference, but depending on how you phrase it, that can come off as devalidating to the person in question. "unfortunate" is not a good word for qualifying someone's identity because of the negative implications.