Hey you didn't say anything to River, did you?
Honestly I don't even think it's worth it to bring anymore attention to it. I don't even disagree with what they say entirely and the way they said it in that post was actually really good, it just kinda gets gross when I start putting it into the context of the stuff they said to me. It was stuff about mental health and not forcing your issues onto others. Again I 100% agree with that, I just think the way they phrase it a lot of the time is SUUUUUPER fucking insensitive. And again, it gets worse when you bring into consideration the stuff they said to me and how they said it, y'know?
Well, yeah. I agree you really SHOULDN'T force your own issues onto someone else, and if you agree with that-that's you. But it get's to the point where, if you, yourself-the one saying you shouldn't push "issues on others", why even bother bringing it up CONSTANTLY? Now, i don't know how they said it, hell=WHAT it said, but whatever it was, I don't like it regardless. And I understand, just-what happened, do you know why they even bothered bringing it up?
It was just like-one of their random text posts. And I would GUESSSS that either something happened in their life recently, OR they saw our conversation before I deleted it and this was their passive aggressive response to it. Or someone else saw it and talked to them. And it was like something along the lines of like "You are not entitled to force your issues on other people, if you want to talk to me I'll listen but you have to ask first." And again I totally agree with that, it's just that the way they phrase it is really inconsiderate. Like a lot of the time when someone 'forces' their issues on you, it's a trauma dump and it's because they're hurting. Like it happens all the time on this site, right? And like-you've seen how I respond to it. I never, NEVER invalidate them or what they go through and I always acknowledge that they're hurt and they should be allowed to express it. And then I politely point out that a public platform where you don't know what others are going through isn't the best place to do it and ask them to delete it. But there's a really big difference between that and what Riv does. They don't bother to consider how vulnerable or raw of an emotional state that person is in, instead they immediately go to shaming them and often invalidating their feelings in the process. They're naturally defensive, and that's ok, but I don't think they know what they're talking about because they just haven't really lived through the stuff the people who have those breakdowns are living through. So it becomes incredibly insensitive. Like calling someone 'Entitled' for having a breakdown? That's really not ok.
Sorry I did NOT mean for that to get so long-
No no, it's alright. You needed to talk yourself-see, I bet if they saw this, they'll use THIS as some excuse. And that's just fucking stupid-imagine walking up to someone metaphorically, and their crying their eyes out. You ask them what's wrong, and when you do they go on for a good 10 minutes about things they NEEDED to get off their chest, and you suddenly tell them, "Your entitled."....Think about it for a second.......exactly-It's fucking STUPID-