It was just like-one of their random text posts. And I would GUESSSS that either something happened in their life recently, OR they saw our conversation before I deleted it and this was their passive aggressive response to it. Or someone else saw it and talked to them. And it was like something along the lines of like "You are not entitled to force your issues on other people, if you want to talk to me I'll listen but you have to ask first." And again I totally agree with that, it's just that the way they phrase it is really inconsiderate. Like a lot of the time when someone 'forces' their issues on you, it's a trauma dump and it's because they're hurting. Like it happens all the time on this site, right? And like-you've seen how I respond to it. I never, NEVER invalidate them or what they go through and I always acknowledge that they're hurt and they should be allowed to express it. And then I politely point out that a public platform where you don't know what others are going through isn't the best place to do it and ask them to delete it. But there's a really big difference between that and what Riv does. They don't bother to consider how vulnerable or raw of an emotional state that person is in, instead they immediately go to shaming them and often invalidating their feelings in the process. They're naturally defensive, and that's ok, but I don't think they know what they're talking about because they just haven't really lived through the stuff the people who have those breakdowns are living through. So it becomes incredibly insensitive. Like calling someone 'Entitled' for having a breakdown? That's really not ok.
Sorry I did NOT mean for that to get so long-